tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post7582197336789851821..comments2023-11-02T19:46:44.577+11:00Comments on Fumbling Towards Geekdom: My family is insane. Episode #2159StyleyGeekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10287051608503966129noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-64075817577135168572006-11-21T09:30:00.000+11:002006-11-21T09:30:00.000+11:00I think that's good advice, ITPF. I might just ta...I think that's good advice, ITPF. I might just take it.StyleyGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10287051608503966129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-36632002319786447902006-11-21T04:46:00.000+11:002006-11-21T04:46:00.000+11:00Sometimes people don't see how they've been a pain...Sometimes people don't see how they've been a pain in the butt until someone tells them. I'd be very honest with mom and say that you planned on what she insisted and you feel slighted that she'd change for the borther but not for you.Inside the Philosophy Factoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255753259090709877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-63546674854937812142006-11-20T09:41:00.000+11:002006-11-20T09:41:00.000+11:00I'm sorry - it must be insanely frustrating. But ...I'm sorry - it must be insanely frustrating. But think of how wonderful you'll be able to cope by episode #2250 or so! <br /><br />Seriously - it's a skill to deal with icky family stuff that's not particularly sensible or fair. Congrats on doing so well with it - I would have thrown fits and that's rarely helpful. I hope you have an amazing trip!post-dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06493309260165352484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-88065064138046534282006-11-20T09:35:00.000+11:002006-11-20T09:35:00.000+11:00Yeah... You are probably right that that sort of r...Yeah... You are probably right that that sort of response would make her think twice about doing that sort of thing again. But I don't know if I could do that. <br /><br />I don't think she acts this way out of malice, but just really, really doesn't know how to put herself in someone else's shoes and think about how irritating her behaviour is. <br /><br />Plus, she's had a hard year. I am making allowances right now. <br /><br />Maybe I'm too easy-going, but behaving otherwise is just not me.StyleyGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10287051608503966129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-75730252531143617162006-11-20T04:27:00.000+11:002006-11-20T04:27:00.000+11:00And remember, she jerks you around because it work...And remember, she jerks you around because it works for her. If you want it to stop, asking nicely is never going to work. The only thing that will work is to stop making it work for her. <br /><br />Telling her she gets x trips for you to go see her totalling y days over the next z years and there will be no more no matter what may help. Start small if you do that -- "We can do one trip to NZ in the next x months/years. Are you sure you want this one? Because there won't be any more."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-89642056426699965562006-11-20T03:31:00.000+11:002006-11-20T03:31:00.000+11:00"Since you were insistent that we be with you on t..."Since you were insistent that we be with you on the twelfth to the point that we make considerable personal sacrifice to do so, we will be there on the twelfth, but we will not be available on the fourteenth."<br /><br />Then get out of town on the fourteenth and go do something fun.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20717535.post-58875041187713762432006-11-19T12:58:00.000+11:002006-11-19T12:58:00.000+11:00woah! Oh! You gotta love her. There is nothing...woah! Oh! You gotta love her. There is nothing else to do or say because you will go mad. I feel for you, I really do and I know how I'd react in a similar situation (which is just the sort of nonsense my mother would pull). Aw, that sucks!DrOtterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15428353654954650053noreply@blogger.com