An infertile friend has asked me whether I would consider donating some eggs to her.
Because obviously important life decisions should only be taken in consultation with the entire internet, I have to ask: what would you do?
- she isn't a super close friend, but certainly is someone who I would be very happy to build a closer friendship with. (She doesn't have any close friends or family in Australia, so that's why she thought of me rather than someone closer.)
- We are both on the same page in terms of how we would want the relationship to work: the child should know that it was genetically related to me, and I would be a sort of aunt or close family friend. I wouldn't see the child as "mine" in any way, though.
- I have plenty of experience with the difference between "genetically related" and "family", as I am adopted and have a good relationship with my biological mother and her children, while in no way thinking of her as "my mother" or as having any legal ties to me.
- I know this friend's husband and his children (from a previous marriage) and from what I can tell they are great parents and the kids are very happy.